my wife is about to deploy to afghanistan in two weeks for 8 months. i followed her to townsville to allow her to fufil her dream of being in the army and left all my friends and family behind in sydney to do so. i havent been working and have never dealt well with being alone and as such have been very miserable and just not myself. adding to that for the last month or so we have been very distant to each other which the army psyc told us is a very normal coping mechanisms leading into a long seperation. anyway, on the weekend she decided to tell me she is seriously thinking about leaving me. she says its because ive changed so much and im not the same person she married and while she still loves me she is not in love with me, even though thats only the case because i gave up my old life to follow her. i finally thought things were looking up when i started this business, something ive always wanted to do, but it turns out she resents me for that to because it has made money so tight and we havent been able to do anything other than pay bills and eat. i honestly dont know what to do, i cant eat, i cant sleep, i feel permanently sick in the guts and ive lost all motivation to continue trying to build my work load up, which hasnt been happening anyway and im really struggling. i already knew the next 8 months were gonna be the hardest of my life but i was prepared for them because i could see how much better things would be when she got back, but i honestly dont know how im going to get through this now not knowing if im even going to have a wife coming back to me now. part of me just wants to give up and move back to sydney but i dont want to do that and i have to much at stake here now, but if i go through this and then she tells me we are through when she gets back i think it will kill me.